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SEASON 23: THE LIST
Some names are difficult to forgive because of what someone did.
Others are difficult because of everything they failed to do.
For Terrence Newby, the hardest person on his list is his own father, a man whose addiction repeatedly came before having a relationship with his son.
In this episode of Other People’s Shoes, Terrence opens up about growing up around addiction, watching drugs affect his father and other members of his family, and carrying those experiences with him into adulthood.
Forgiveness does not erase what happened.
It does not excuse the choices someone made.
But it may decide how long those choices continue to shape our lives.
Terrence also takes us inside Carolina basketball, shares what he learned from legendary coach Dean Smith, and answers one of the most impossible questions of all time:
What exactly is a Tar Heel?
📝 GUEST INTRODUCTION
Terrence Newby played four years of basketball at the University of North Carolina under legendary head coach Dean Smith.
A talented and versatile guard, Terrence could play both the point guard and shooting guard positions. He was one of two seniors on the team alongside Ed Cota and helped provide depth after an injury to Ronald Curry.
Terrence was also a strong perimeter shooter, a solid defensive player, and an exceptional all-around athlete who could have played Division I football or baseball in addition to basketball.
During his time at Carolina, Terrence was part of three Final Four teams and shared the court with Tar Heel legends including Vince Carter, Ed Cota, Antawn Jamison, and many others.
But behind the Carolina jersey was a son trying to understand why his father continued choosing drugs over having a relationship with him.
📝 EPISODE DETAILS
In this episode, Terrence and Neil discuss:
Growing up with a father who struggled with drug addiction
Watching addiction affect multiple members of his family
Why his father became the hardest person on his list to forgive
The pain of wanting a relationship with a parent who continued making destructive choices
The difference between forgiveness and pretending the damage never happened
Playing four years of basketball at the University of North Carolina
Being part of three Final Four teams
Sharing the court with Vince Carter, Ed Cota, Antawn Jamison, and other Carolina greats
Playing for legendary coach Dean Smith
What made Coach Smith’s leadership different
An unforgettable Dean Smith story
The lesson Terrence carried with him long after leaving Chapel Hill
How our response to a mistake can matter more than the mistake itself
The answer to the nearly impossible question: What is a Tar Heel?
📝 MEMORABLE QUOTE
Four things you do with a mistake:
Recognize it.
Admit it.
Learn from it.
Forget it.
Coach Dean Smith taught his players four things to do with a mistake.
The lesson was meant for basketball, but Terrence discovered that it applies far beyond the court.
Recognize what happened.
Admit your part in it.
Learn what it came to teach you.
Then stop allowing it to define you.
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