Fix It
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"KNOCK KNOCK… WHO’S THERE?"
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What if the thing on the other side of the door… isn’t something you can fix?
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💔 Betrayal
😡 Anger
🤯 Confusion
🤝 Or the question you’ve been avoiding…
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"Can I actually forgive this?"
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This week on "Other People’s Shoes", I sit down with Dr. Bruce Chalmer and we go straight into the stuff most people try to avoid.
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He’s spent 30+ years helping couples through the moments when everything falls apart… and somehow boiled it all down to 7 words:
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👉 "Be kind. Don’t panic. Have faith."
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Sounds simple… until life tests it.
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We talk about: 🧠 The real steps to forgiveness ⚖️ When forgiveness actually "isn’t" the answer 💔 What to do when trust is shattered 🔍 And how to trust yourself again when everything feels off.
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This one isn’t surface-level. It’s honest. It’s uncomfortable. And it might hit closer to home than you expect.
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So… are you answering this door?
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🎧 Hit play: "Fix It"
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#WhosThere #OtherPeoplesShoes #Forgiveness #Relationships #PodcastLife
🎙 FIX IT
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Every knock carries a moment… a decision… a person… or a truth we didn’t see coming.
This season is about answering the door especially when what’s on the other side feels uncomfortable, uncertain… or completely unfixable.
👣 GUEST INTRODUCTION:
What do you do when something breaks… and you can’t just fix it?
Not with a quick apology.
Not with time alone.
Not with pretending it didn’t happen.
This week, I’m joined by Dr. Bruce Chalmer a psychologist who’s spent over 30 years helping couples navigate conflict, betrayal, and the moments when everything feels like it’s falling apart.
Early in his career, someone asked him how he does couples therapy. His answer?
“Be kind. Don’t panic.”
And later… he added a third piece:
“Have faith.”
Seven words that sound simple… until life puts them to the test.
Because when betrayal enters the room when trust is broken, when someone crosses a line you can’t unsee the instinct is to fix it. Fast.
But what if fixing it isn’t the first step?
What if the real work is understanding what actually happened… and what it means now?
In his book Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again, Dr. Chalmer walks through the emotional aftermath of betrayal and what it takes to move forward with clarity instead of panic.
And through his podcast Couples Therapy in Seven Words, he brings those same ideas into real, honest conversations about intimacy, conflict, and connection grounded in both experience and everyday life.
Can trust be rebuilt?
Should it be?
And is forgiveness something you choose… or something you grow into?
Sometimes the knock at the door isn’t asking to be fixed.
Sometimes it’s asking to be faced.
💡 EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:
🧠 The three steps to forgiveness and how they play out in real relationships
🧩 The deeper meaning behind “Be kind, don’t panic, have faith”
💔 A real look at whether you can truly forgive deep betrayal
⚖️ When forgiveness is right… and when it might not be
🔍 How to learn to trust yourself again after being hurt
🔄 What moving forward actually looks like together or apart
🔗 CONNECT WITH DR. BRUCE CHALMER:
🌐 Website: https://brucechalmer.com/
🎙 Podcast: https://couplestherapyinsevenwords.com/
📚 Book: https://www.amazon.com/Betrayal-Forgiveness-Navigate-Turmoil-Learn/dp/B0D4R8HFHS/ref=sr_1_3
🎧 LISTEN & FOLLOW OTHER PEOPLE’S SHOES:
📺 YouTube
👟 Website
📣 LEAVE US A REVIEW:
If this episode made you pause and rethink what it really means to “fix” something or whether everything even can be fixed don’t keep that to yourself.
Leave a review and let us know what stood out after stepping into Dr. Chalmer’s shoes.
